Public opinion of chatting sex online?

My wife has opened her own business, she works 16hr days, from 5am to 9pm. I work 2pm to 10 pm. We hardly see each other much less spend time together. During the last month, I have engaged in sexual chat online to attend to my needs. I have never cheated on my wife, but think that I need some kind of outlet other than movies and magazines. I love my wife but I also need to take care of my needs when I cannot be with her.

Public opinion of chatting sex online?
Sexual chat is cheating. There is another live person on that other computer over there.





Put this question to your wife. She may be fine with it. If you are scared, then you know you are breaking the rules.
Reply:i think she may be hurt if she knew. I understand that she isn't there to fulfill your needs- but unfortunately- marriage is through thick and thin- and right now it's thick.


The fact that you are talking to real people (even though its on a computer) makes this somewhat threatening- its not the same as magazines and videos. She'll start to wonder what's next?


I think the both of yuou need to have a heart to heart- you can bring up the fact that a marriage needs to thrive- and if it's not being nurtured with time- it can fall apart....


good luck
Reply:Because she is okay with it then its totally fine for you to do it.





But you have to ask yourself, "why is she okay with this?"


Is it because she does it? Are you okay with it if she does it too?Is she possibly doing something FAR worse and thats why its okay with her?





You should really investigate it more and make sure she TRULY is okay with it and why. If it all checks out then I would chat away.
Reply:It is only "harmless sex chat" for you...until you want to take it up a notch and meet in person...I personally think it is wrong to be chatting sex online with another person when you are married....If your marriage is important to the both of you...you will find the time for one another...and it isn't so much about quantity of time...but the quality of time you have for one another...
Reply:Those are not needs....its more of a physical want and desire...and you say you have never cheated on your wife, but in my opinion, if you merely lust on another person you've already mentally cheated, therefore online sex chat...you are practically cheating...dont do this to yourself nor you wife...its simply not fair at all...find other ways to distract yourself from sexual desires...it might be hard...but its what is right ...for you...and your marriage...
Reply:Sexual chat is a type of cheating ... you need another outlet .


If you are not happy , you will probably end up having a relationship with someone online at some point , if you haven't already.


What would your wife say ? would she think it's ok?
Reply:Does your wife have access to a computer that she can log on her own private mail? If so, then why not have online sex with your wife?! OR.. Write her sex letters and stick them in her car and she can read them over and over until she gets home to you. Good Luck !!
Reply:know the feeling...





we got an open marriage... and i have fun online... chatting and webcamming... i highly recommend it.. :D





[edit - but you'll get ripped apart by the moral majority on here, who don't understand and judge harshly]
Reply:Why not just make more time for your wife? I will never understand the thrill of reading things someone typed? I think it is sad that this is what you have resorted to and how would you feel if your wife was the one doing it?
Reply:This will lead to an affair at one point or another. No doubt about that. It's only a matter of time.
Reply:i think its hot ive done it and im maried dont worry its not officialy cheating
Reply:i dont...you need to talk to your wife...if i was her i would consider that as cheating..:[
Reply:In all honesty I think this is a gray area. People are caught between the way things used to be and the way they're becoming. I do not think you are doing this as a means of cheating on your wife, and if she is okay with it then nobody's opinions on here should matter sweetie. I do know that expanding to the online area is something that needs serious consideration. It's not that anyone means to cross the line, but all too often they end up. I think it's very important that you look at the potential there for becoming a means of cheating. Make sure that you are aware of the risks is my basic point. Be honest and open at all times with your wife about your actions online, and if this becomes a problem PLEASE pull the plug. Relationships are really taking a toll from online chatting/sex now. 'hugs' Best of luck and hope you find the answer you are looking for.
Reply:Clearly, you don't like what most of us have to say about your vice. I highly doubt that you have you been 100% honest with your wife about your online exploits. You're simply looking for validation or permission to do what you know is wrong.





I can appreciate a hard-working couple with odd hours; however, I would do whatever it took to be intimate with my husband--even if it meant changing jobs, hiring help with my business, etc. Why not make a similar sacrifice for your wife? You married her, so isn't she worth it?





Are you assuming that the hours you both work will never change? What happens when it does? Do you really think that you going to be able to drop this online sex addiction?





If you were truly honest with yourself, you'd realize that you are using the odd hours as an excuse to indulge yourself in sexual immorality in a way that you perceive as safe and unthreatening. Online sex opens up a Pandora's box that can destroy your marital relationship. You're very naive if you think otherwise.

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